Skills
7 Networking Lessons Being in a Sorority Teaches You
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When people think of sororities, the first thing that comes to mind is not always career skills. I’d say themed mixers, cattiness, the movie Legally Blonde and just the color pink are other things that may possibly come to mind before job success. But actually sororities are a great place to learn certain skills that will carry you through the rest of your career. A huge one is networking. A big component of Greek Life is the social aspect and though Rush may not seem like the most serious thing at the time, it is actually a great launching pad for being an expert networker. Nancy Leavy Hoag, Vice President of Marketing Schechter Wealth Strategies, told Levo, “This may seem like just socializing…as I thought of it in the sorority but it’s so much more than that. When I work with someone who is reluctant to run a meeting or join their trade association I am reminded of those skills I learned early on in a friendly environment of sorority sisters.” We talked to many women who say their sorority experiences gave them amazing networking skills. Here is what they learned:

Treat your contacts seriously
Selena Cuffe is the President & CEO of Heritage Link Brands which helps transform African products into iconic, global brands. But before that she was a member of the iconic black public service sorority, Delta Sigma Theta, at Stanford University. She told us, “Managing relationships is tantamount to managing a business – treat your contacts seriously, with respect, and as you might want to be treated.
You learn how to talk to anyone
Samuella Becker, CEO and Founder of TIgressPRSpecific, said even the most bashful of sisters learn to proactively initiate conversation during rush.
Nancy Leavy Hoag, Vice President of Marketing of Schechter Wealth Strategies, said the ability to walk up to a complete stranger and start a conversation becomes routine. “From Rush parties which scare the pants off you to addressing PanHellenic councils or the appropriate dean of students…you need to always be ready to smile and say hello to a new person.”
Dorothy C. Handfield, CEO of DCH Consulting Services, said as a member of the Alpha Kappa Sorority she interacted with women of many diverse backgrounds. “Even though AKA is the first African American sorority, we have members who come from different ethnic and economic backgrounds. Not everyone will look and act like you. By dealing with different personalities, I also learned how to collaborate with members who I may not personally like. The bottom line was the betterment of the chapter and the sorority not letting personality differences hinder our goal as a group. I had to learn how to intermingle with all members within our chapter in order for us to implement programs and/or events. As a result of my sorority life, I learned that during networking I must remain focused and stay professional. I must portray an image of a team player not a soloist.”
Keep your network intact
It is no coincidence that the estimated 10% of college students that participate in Greek life breeds 120 Forbes 500s CEOs, 48% of all U.S. presidents, 42% of U.S. senators, 30% of U.S. congressmen, and 40% of U.S. Supreme Court justices. You have to figure that some of that was due to blatant connections. Ellen Barnes Pfiffner got her first real job because she talked to the dad of a sorority sister. “His contact made an introduction and that person referred me to the dean of a nearby college. I taught at the University and left it to work for a Fortune 500 company. I now have my own consulting firm,” she said.
You learn how to walk the walk
“You have to dress the part and the sorority definitely had rules at the time to make sure you looked your best when it counted. I still struggle with shyness in certain social situations like a party, but I just tell myself to think of this party like rush and start rushing anyone that I meet. It usually works and I have to think I have met some interesting people along the way,” said Alice Agnello, Chief Marketing Officer.
You learn how to be careful of what you say
Watch what you say at all times because you never know who is listening, says Ashley Kutach, the Director of Training and Development at Core Insights. “I lived in a sorority house with about 30 other girls. We all shared a huge bathroom area. I overheard way too many comments spoken by someone who did not realize the target of their comment was within ear shot. Some people never learned, but I certainly learned from their mistakes. Same thing goes in the break room, at the park and in a restaurant. You never know who is within hearing range. So, be kind and avoid using names when at all possible. It’s difficult to network with others when you are known to spread gossip or unkindness.”
You learn about people
Ashley Kutach said you learn that all people are just people. “I remember being so intimidated by some girls that were outgoing and popular. I really felt like they were better than me. In the end, they are people just like me. They too have fears, gifts and struggles. Once I came to realize that we are all human, and I don’t need to be intimidated, I was more open to networking with people at all levels with many behavioral styles. When I find myself falling in a trap of, “oh, that person is too busy/popular/well-liked/successful to talk to me,” I remind myself that they too are a human, not a super hero.”
What are some lessons you learned from being in a sorority? Tell us in the comments!
Photo courtesy of CU Independent.


GREAT article! I am so sick of being stereotyped for being a sorority girl. Being president of my chapter as a collegiate helped shaped me to the leader I am today and gave me real-life business experience as a 20 year old. Not to mention the opportunity to networking! All of my interviews were through older sisters. Now 5 years later, sorority sisters I have never personally met are willing to help me personally and professionally.
Now I am giving back and I advise a collegiate chapter; I cannot wait to share this article with my girls!
Going Greek was the best decision I have made in my life thus far!
I wasn't in a sorority, but I think these skills can be cultivated in other student organizations (like athletics, student government, and volunteer groups)! Great article!!
I was in a sorority in college and I definitely agree with all of these points. Networking and interacting at so many different events - rush, philanthropies, etc. - really teaches you how to handle yourself in different situations. This is such a great article!
I don't think I realized how powerful my sorority experience was until my first job and I noticed that I was able to connect with a ton of people because I knew to ask them questions about what they were interested in. #RecruitmentLessons
This article raises some fabulous points and highlights the benefits I saw from my own sorority experience. I think another huge benefit I see is that being in a sorority, or another student group, makes you think about being a more well-rounded person. It's so easy (especially for me) to focus on the job at hand and think that is the most important thing, but when you were in an student organization, there are often several big things going on at any one time. Alpha Delta Pi taught me balance and the need for philanthropy and development in our daily lives, in addition to the ever mounding pile of work.
My Delta Zeta membership taught me how to create change, gain buy-in from others, and how to be challenged. My sorority was filled with amazing women who were not afraid to share opinions. This strengthened my ability to prepare when the proposal counts, to be ready for the questions that will be on the minds of stakeholders, and how to engage in challenging one another while never making it personal and keeping it about the issues at hand.
I realize now that one of the best things about being in a sorority were the positions we could hold in the organization. Whether it was president or recording secretary each position had a a certain accountability to the overall welfare of the entire organization. Holding those positions taught each of us how to listen to our peers, assess what was the best decision for the organization and standing by that decision, finding ways to be more organized and budgeting time for all other college activities including homework. My sorority experience truly made my college experience and I am so grateful for all the women in Theta both collegiate and alums who continue to inspire me.
Being a member of Kappa has taught me how to take a deep breath, take a step back, and look at the big picture. Being surrounded by girls constantly can be stressful, but it's incredibly applicable to the real world!
Don't forget about all that etiquette training for sorority recruitment - I actually know how to shake someone's hand, look them in the eye, respond directly to their questions, engage in thoughtful conversation, politely excuse myself, and understand how to sit/stand/walk without looking like a fool. I can't tell you how many adults do not have these basic etiquette skills!
Being in a sorority also taught me to get involved and volunteer for committees and activities. It is the same in the workplace. By volunteering for committees and special projects, I have increased my network and been able to learn about other areas of the company.
So true! Zeta has taught me so much about how to talk to people!